Wee-Bit Misanthropic

Uggh…this has got to be the most effeminate subject I have ever written on. Given the subject matter, I am thinking of changing the blog’s name to ‘Growing Ovaries’. At least I don't have to let go of perfectionism—I’m already a ‘good-enoughist’. I need to be more mindful of the ‘negative self-talk’ I give myself. More tied to the present moment too. Meditation would probably help Being ‘mindful of our common humanity’ is not a strong area for me either. Not so much humanity as people with my neurological condition. There are many in my group with the same challenges I have. All the more reason to attend the various support groups I’m in—to strengthen the bonds that are there. 0Self-kindness…uggh…I get an F. Are we done? ‘Acceptance is the heart of compassion’ writes BB. I need to be more of a friend to myself and help accept the situation for what it is. I should treat myself as I would a good friend, with warmth, understanding, and empathy. . Yuck.

Authenticity also demands that we stand for our values. This is my list of values. 1 honesty 2 loyalty 3 respect 4 responsibility 5 spirituality 6 compassion 7 hope 8 courage 9 gratitude The first four are ingrained in how I live. The last 5 are'soul's work' as BB writes. The last two especially require major work on my part.

Courage could be defined as 'the willingness to put yourself out there'  Compassion means accepting your own vulnerabilities and bringing your whole person, including your dark side, with you so you can suffer with the other person.   Because of the human need for connection, we are by definition vulnerable as we let people be seen, heard and valued,  and as we give and receive without judgement attached.